Dating and the Older Blogger

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I've recently been dating a bit after deciding to FINALLY make a effort to move past the ex. She easily did it, so I should follow her lead as well. Surprisingly or not, statistics say it takes a man much longer to get over (and heal after) an ended relationship than it does the ladies. Well ladies, Is that true?

Back in the early fall I briefly dated a woman with whom family friends set me up thinking we'd be a "perfect match". I can tell within one hour whether or not I'm interested. Most people disagree and tell me to give it more time. Give the woman a chance or fair shake if you will. She was sweet and not unattractive, but there wasn't the connection I want and long for. I've tried the creepy and somewhat deceptive on-line dating game to mild success, however I prefer to meet women through friends and acquaintances or by simply pimping myself out without assistance.

More recently I've had the pleasure of dating a wonderful woman from work. Well, she doesn't work with me, but works in the same building. She initially avoided going out due to our close proximity of employment. I respected how she felt as I tend to be a private person and don't wish for anyone to have details of my life unless I choose to provide them. I've seen her here and there during the past several years, but never had any direct contact with her until I required discovery materials for a case I was working. That was the ice breaker and it was all downhill for her from there.

She's a single mother with a lovely daughter in her early teens. I enjoy her company very much and we were beginning to spend quite a bit of time together. She of course took a liking to me, beguiled and bedazzled by my many bizarre charms, and why shouldn't she! Plain and simple she was sweet on me. They say it's all about timing and for the most part that's true. My timing tends to be usually untimely! When I first started to pursue her I was in a certain place. By the time we had finally agreed to see each other I felt I had turned the corner to a different place, but not a better place. I realized it was confusing for her and the last thing I wished to do was play games. It's very unbecoming at our age, although no matter what age, it seems to be a timeless male/female thing. It is what it is.

I knew something was wrong. I could hear it in her voice. We eventually had "the talk", the "maybe we're better off as friends" thing. Perhaps it's best. She is almost fragiley (is that a word?) sweet and kind. It's getting to the point with all the dating I've done, the only thing I think I do well with the opposite sex is the friend thing. Maybe that's enough- I don't know. I'd like to think I'm capable of more. I'm told "not everyone is meant to be married" often enough. I've connected with very few women in my life, and obviously they are no longer around. I'll admit I'm difficult, but in the end I feel I'm worth the trouble and frustration. I've still got a lot to learn at my tender age, but I'm not getting any younger. I know there's still time, but the older you get the less your life long romantic prospects are, at least from what I've seen.

I don't wish to portray my self as a pathetic old maid. I prefer to think of myself as a slightly senile spinster. Nurse- I think my diaper needs changing!